ATTACHMENT + RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS

Many people seek therapy when relationships start to feel anxiety-provoking, emotionally intense, or painful—especially when the same patterns seem to repeat. You might find yourself trapped by patterns of overgiving, pulling away, worrying about being “too much” or “not enough”, or feeling deeply affected by connection and disconnection.

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These struggles often have roots in early relationship experiences: how closeness, safety, and connection were learned over time. While these patterns once served a purpose, they can start to limit your sense of security, closeness, and self-trust in adult relationships.

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Therapy offers a space to understand and gently shift these attachment patterns, so past experiences don’t keep shaping present-day connections.

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DIFFICULT ATTACHMENT PATTERNS
MAY LOOK LIKE: 

• Fear of abandonment or rejection

• Difficulty trusting or relying on others

• Overgiving or taking on too much

• Emotional highs and lows in relationships

• Avoiding closeness, conflict, or vulnerability

• Ongoing relationship anxiety or uncertainty

 

A note on trauma processing and relationship triggers

 

For many people, relationship triggers aren’t just about insight—they’re driven by unresolved attachment experiences stored in the nervous system. Even when you understand your patterns, your body may still react as if old dynamics are happening again.

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When appropriate, I incorporate Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) to help process attachment-related experiences in a way that doesn’t require detailed retelling or reliving. ART can support your nervous system in updating old relational responses, so triggers feel less intense and you’re better able to stay present, grounded, and connected in your relationships.

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Human beings are hardwired for connection, so feeling isolated from yourself and the people around you can be one of life's most painful experiences. Counselling can give you the skills to form and maintain fulfilling relationships that help turn your suffering into vitality.

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NEXT STEPS:

We’ll start by exploring your relational experiences and identifying the patterns and triggers that feel most challenging right now. From there, we’ll work together to help you build relationships that feel steadier, more balanced, and more supportive.